UNITY: THE
SECRET INGREDIENT
By Tom
Gumbrecht
Is there a
secret ingredient that exists in some barns which brings out the best in
riders, boarders and even horses? I think there may be... and I think it may be
unity, the pulling together as a team toward a common goal.
If we want to learn to live in harmony, we need look no further than our horses. DannyBoy and Diesel demonstrate |
Most of us
have been at barns where, upon arrival, some outgoing and seemingly friendly
soul immediately begins to give us the low-down on everyone else in the barn.
It seems comforting; we've made a connection with someone who is looking out
for us, but I've found that it is generally an illusion. Gossip is not about
exchanging information, it's about power. "I know what you don't, and I've
chosen to let you in on it. No need to form your own opinion, I will do that
for you, and claim you for my team." Environments such as this can leave
us feeling suspicious, guarded and confused.
If we're
lucky, we've also experienced barns where there is no trace of a judgmental
undertone. People are accepting, helpful, and mainly discuss concepts, ideas
and events rather than people. When we find ourselves at such a barn, we are
refreshed, encouraged and hopeful. These environments do not exist by accident;
what is tolerated is perpetuated. The embers of gossip die out without the
oxygen of an interested audience.
In my life,
I've been as guilty of these sins as anyone. My dad was a good man. He and I
were both tradesmen, and there were times in his life that we couldn't relate
on a lot of levels; gossiping about the different characters on the job was
where we bonded. It was comforting, it was reassuring and it filled an uneasy
silence. It took a long while to let go of that false sense of security, and
realize that he was doing the best he could to connect, just like I was. But I
no longer want to walk that path.
Gossip has no place in a harmonious environment. Bella and Flo breaking the rules here. |
To keep
myself on the path I would now hope to follow, I ask myself some pointed
questions:
* Am I a
healing, unifying person or am I divisive? Am I judgmental of others?
* Am I a
peacemaker, or do I like to "stir the pot?"
* Am I
tolerant of those who rub me the wrong way, or am I abrasive?
* Do my
remarks carry an air of superiority about them, or to I remember where I came
from?
* Do I put
down some equestrian activities as if I were a cut above for not participating
in this or that aspect of riding?
* Do I share
my defeats as well as my accomplishments that others may identify and grow, or
do I need to appear an expert?
Unity allows us to do together that which we cannot do for ourselves. |
I'm lucky
that the very first barn I landed in radiated an attitude that was supportive,
tolerant and patient, and not indulgent of those with other agendas. It was the
beginning of my own transformation. Now I have my own barn and I have to always
be conscious of the fact that it's me who sets the tone. Just as the barn
requires constant maintenance, so does the environment we have created
here. It is maintenance of a more
spiritual nature, and while our horses may create the need for much of the
facility maintenance, it is they who provide us with maintenance for the soul.
A harmonious workplace doesn't just happen. Just like the barn and fences, it requires work to build and maintain. |
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