BROMANCE
By Tom Gumbrecht
Originally published
in Horse Directory, October 2015
The human heart protects itself from pain sometimes. It
works with the mind to tell it that the thing we have become separated from and
miss so badly, was perhaps not as good as we remembered.
DannyBoy was not my first horse, but he was the first horse
I rode in competition. He was the first horse of my own that I rode in a
regular program of lessons and daily practice. He was the horse that made an
older rider's crazy dreams of competing over fences a reality. We learned
together; he had courage enough for both of us, and I learned to be secure
enough to channel his energy and stay out of his way.
We had a few good seasons in the lower levels of eventing. |
We had had a couple of good seasons in lower level eventing
and jumpers at local venues when Danny took a bad step. It was serious enough
to require surgery, and his rehabilitation had a setback or two. I learned to
know him on a whole different level throughout that experience. I was, through
daily therapy, laser treatments and handwalking, taking care of the of the legs
that had taken such good care of me. He seemed to appreciate my efforts, and
was a remarkably good patient, given his gregarious personality that placed
little value on quiet rest. It was eighteen months before he had healed enough
to be considered sound.
During that time period, I had begun working with my OTTB
mare, Lola, and she required all of the time that I could afford to spend on
riding and still maintain my other duties. At the same time, young Samantha had
come back from college and her horse Bella had been sidelined with a soundness
issue also. A solution was needed, and into the mix went my personal time
constraints, a now-sound horse that required a good rider, and a good rider in
need of a horse. From those ingredients came the team of DannyBoy and Samantha
who enjoyed a great season in jumpers and a refreshed perspective toward
competition for both team members. I was
proud of both of them but distanced myself from DannyBoy somewhat, at least
from a riding perspective, as I thought their experience would be best served
by limiting the team to Sam, Danny, and our shared trainer.
Life doesn't often follow the orderly course that we lay out
for it, and life put many new experiences and responsibilities on Samantha's
plate. Danny's show career was once again interrupted; I was still very busy
with my Thoroughbred mare, and my riding relationship with Danny was now
relegated to the occasional trail. My experience with the mare was so
completely different from what Danny and I had, that my mind had begun playing
tricks on me.
Danny needed to learn a lot of skills, but once learned he
only needed guidance in directing his efforts; emboldening him was not
required. Lola, conversely, needed encouragement in every aspect of riding. As
a former pilot, I recall the difference between flying an airplane and a
helicopter. An airplane can be set up to cruise, and you can kind of sit back
and let it fly itself until some change of altitude or direction is needed, and
then you apply the appropriate control pressures. A helicopter needs to be
flown actively all the time. Lola is a helicopter.
Riding Lola over fences required much more mental and
physical focus than I had been used to. She made me a better rider, for sure.
But over time, in my mind that experience insidiously began to negate what
DannyBoy and I had. I began to think that what we had was all him, without much
from me. Was I merely a passenger at all of those shows and Horse Trials? It
was beginning to seem so.
One day while reminiscing, we said "Let's do this!" |
One day this summer, I looked out at Danny and he looked at
me. Normally the class clown, his personality would change when he was tacked
up and that day proved no exception: as expected, he went from goon to warrior
by the time the girth was tightened. I felt a wave of confidence that day and
set up as big a gymnastic as I could fit in my ring, first all ground poles,
adding some crossrails as we went along. At last we increased them to all
verticals at a height which would require a little bit of a jumping effort. I
took a breath. It was a short approach. He turned an ear back; I answered with
just the hint of a leg and his ear went forward. I tried to maintain the light
contact that Lola required over fences and he reminded me with two cocked ears
that he was not Lola. Hands forward, eyes up, heels down, breathe in, breathe
out, one fence, two-three-four, beautiful! A slight turn of his head enabled
eye contact enough to say, "How was that?" A vigorous pat on the neck
was how I answered.
We were a team. Time had interrupted our performance, but
the team was still intact. Surely Lola required more of an exacting ride. But
Danny required trust. Enough trust to let him do his job and not get in his way
and attempt to micro-manage. Riding that line, we were having a conversation. I
told him what I wanted and he complied. He told me what he needed and I gave it
to him. I used to make him shout his requests at me. Now he merely needs to
speak them, and when we're at our best, he need only whisper.
My very dignified partner, DannyBoy |
Recently, Danny and I spent a day at a local park. The early
fall day was cool and invigorating. We walked leisurely, had a few brisk
canters and were heading back when we came upon a gentleman on horseback who
was eager for conversation. We stopped and chatted, and Danny was patient for
3-4 minutes and then had enough and wanted to move. I suggested that we walk
and talk as my guy had a time limit on his idle setting. To my surprise I
received a kind of admonishment for not having a horse that would stand still
indefinitely. Not normally a fan of unasked-for advice, I nonetheless was as
polite as I could force myself to be: "I admire people who take the time
to train for that, and I admire horses that do that. We were eventers, and what
was important to me was to build a mutual trust that would have him walk
through fire for me when needed."
As my acquaintance continued his insistence that I assign
what he considered to be a serious safety issue the same importance he did, we
came upon a sizable fallen tree on the trail that presented itself as about a
three foot fence. Danny looked, I looked, he cocked an ear and I answered with
leg. In an instant we were on the other side, and we waited quietly at the next
bend for our acquaintance to find a path around the tree. "Nice
jump." "Thanks." We continued on at a brisk trot, Danny taking
the lead now. If there any further admonishments, we didn't hear them.
We arrived at my trailer, and I jumped off and loosened his
girth. I pulled his saddle and switched bridle for halter and he was grazing
within seconds. Continuing our conversation, about five minutes passed when the
horse began dancing under my acquaintance and they beat a hasty exit.
"Gotta go!" "Ok then. Be safe!” In the warm afternoon sun, Danny
and I indulged ourselves a bit; he on the delicious grass
and myself on the irony.
God, I love this horse.
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